How to use a condom
First, pick the right condoms.
Next, using condoms should be discussed with the person you are planning to have sex with.
- The best ones to use are made of latex rubber. These are less likely to break or leak than animal-skin condoms or the thinner "more sensitive" condoms.
- If you have a choice, pick condoms with lubrication (slippery liquid or gel) already on them. This makes them less likely to tear during handling or use. Never use an oilbased lubricant like vaseline with a condom.
- Some condoms come packaged with a spermicide (such as nonoxonyl-9), a chemical designed to kill the sperms. Most spermicides also kill viruses. Although they are not available everywhere, condoms that include a spermicide may provide an additional barrier against the AIDS virus.
- New condoms are stronger than old ones. If you keep a condom for too long, the rubber loses its strength. Store them in a cool, dry place out of direct sunlight. Heat quickly damages rubber, so do not store condoms in hot spots such as the glove compartment of a car. Many condom packages will have either a manufacturing date or an expiration date on them. This is helpful since it provides an indication of age. Older condoms are likely to be weaker, and should be through out. A condom should also be thrown out if it feels hard, dried out or very sticky, or if it looks discoloured or was in a torn or damaged package - so take a look at them as you use them.
- Condoms should never be re-used - use a new condom each time you have sex. So, keep a supply of condoms on hand. Carry some condoms with you whenever you go out. Even if you do not use them, you can share them with friends who may have forgotten theirs.
Once you and your partner are comfortable with the idea of using a condom and are ready to have sex, here is how to use a condom the right way:
- Waiting to pull out a condom until the moment before you have sex is the worst possible time to bring up the subject. Your partner may get angry that you have waited so long and may feel tricked, or not trusted.
- The best time to introduce the subject of using condoms is the first time you think about having sex with someone. Planning to protect yourself and your partner from getting a sexually transmitted disease, especially AIDS, shows that you care about your health and about your partner's health. It also shows that you are aware of the risks of unprotected sex at a time when AIDS is a serious epidemic all over the world.
- The person you are thinking about having sex with may not agree at first when you say that you want to use a condom when you have sex. You may need to offer some arguments about why you feel that way, using facts about safer sex. If the person still resists, then the smart thing to do is not to have sex. If that person cares so little about his/her health - or yours - then you should find someone else who does care.
After sex, you need to take the condom off the right way.
- Only open the package containing the condom when you are ready to use it. Otherwise, the condom will dry out. Be careful not to tear or damage the condom when you open the package. If it does get torn, throw it away and open a new package.
- Condoms come rolled up into a flat circle. They can only be unrolled onto an erect ("hard") penis.
- Before the penis touches the other person, place the rolled-up condom, right side up, on the end of the penis.
- Hold the tip of the condom between your thumb and first finger to squeeze the air out of the tip. This leaves room for the semen to collect after ejaculation.
- Keep holding the top of the condom with one hand. With the other hand (or your partner's hand), unroll the condom all the way down the length of the erect penis to the pubic hair. If the man is uncircumcised, he should first pull back the foreskin before unrolling the condom.
- Always put the condom on before entering the partner.
- If the condom is not lubricated enough for you, you may choose to add a "water-based" lubricant, such as silicone, glycerin, or K-Y jelly. Even saliva works well for this. Lubricants made from oil (cooking oil or shortening, mineral or baby oil, petroleum jellies such as Vaseline, most lotions) should never be used because they can damage the condom.
- If you feel the condom slipping off during sex, hold it at the base to keep it in place during the rest of this sexual act. It would be safest for the man to pull his penis out and put on a new condom, following all the steps again.
- Right after the man ejaculates ("cums"), while still inside his partner, he must hold onto the condom at the base, near the pubic hair, to be sure the condom does not slip off.
- Now, the man must pull out while the penis is still erect. If you wait too long, the penis will get smaller in size, and the ejaculate ("cum") will spill out of the condom.
- When the penis is completely out, take off the condom and throw it away.
If you are going to have sex again, use a new condom and start the whole process over again!